Beg, borrow, hire or steal an extra camera for the day - set it up with a different lens. I try to shoot with one wide angle lens (great for candid shots and in tight spaces (particularly before the ceremony in the preparation stage of the day) and one longer lens (it can be handy to have something as large as 200mm if you can get your hands on one - I use a 70-200mm).

I find the family photo part of the day can be quite stressful. People are going everywhere, you're unaware of the different family dynamics at play and people are in a 'festive spirit' (and have often been drinking a few spirits) to the point where it can be quite chaotic. Get the couple to nominate a family member (or one for each side of the family) who can be the 'director' of the shoot. They can round everyone up, help get them in the shot and keep things moving so that the couple can get back to the party.

Visit the locations of the different places that you'll be shooting before the big day. While I'm sure most Pros don't do this - I find it really helpful to know where we're going, have an idea of a few positions for shots and to know how the light might come into play. On one or two weddings I even visited locations with the couples and took a few test shots (these made nice 'engagement photos').

When shooting outside after a ceremony or during the posed shots you'll probably want to keep your flash attached to give a little fill in flash. I tend to dial it back a little (a stop or two) so that shots are not blown out - but particularly in backlit or midday shooting conditions where there can be a lot of shadow, fill in flash is a must. Read more about using Fill Flash.

I know that many readers feel that they don't have the time for shooting in RAW (due to extra processing) but a wedding is one time that it can be particularly useful as it gives so much more flexibility to manipulate shots after taking them. Weddings can present photographers with tricky lighting which result in the need to manipulate exposure and white balance after the fact - RAW will help with this considerably.

One more piece of advice that someone gave me on my own wedding day. 'Things will Go Wrong - But They Can be the Best Parts of the Day'. In every wedding that I've participated in something tends to go wrong with the day. The best man can't find the ring, the rain pours down just as the ceremony ends, the groom forgets to do up his fly, the flower girl decides to sit down in the middle of the aisle or the bride can't remember her vows.

Weddings are about celebrating - they should be fun. The more fun you have as the photographer the more relaxed those you are photographing will be. Perhaps the best way to loosen people up is to smile as the photographer (warning: I always come home from photographing weddings with sore jaws and cheeks because of of my smiling strategy).

As a coordinator, Wendy Stoller, has been a guest in many weddings and has collected a series of heart feltExamples of Wedding Speeches. For some inspiration, visit and listen.